A woman has confessed that she would not allow her sister’s service dog to attend her wedding because her fiance is terrified after being attacked by a dog as a child.
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A bride-to-be sparked an interesting debate online, after confessing that she banned her sister’s service dog from attending her wedding.
The woman, who is due to marry her five-year-old boyfriend in 2023, has opted for a marriage without children or pets; something they had hoped all their loved ones would be happy to oblige.
But this is where things get a bit tricky. The bride, 24, has a younger sister, who adopted a golden retriever as a psychiatric support dog to help her with her bipolar disorder and depression just over a year ago.
Generally speaking, people take their service dogs everywhere with them, but the bride has come to a difficult crossroads as her fiance, 29, was attacked by a golden retriever as a child and was forced to go to therapy then he could relearn how to be comfortable around animals.
“He is now doing well with all dogs except golden retrievers,” the woman explained on the IATA Reddit forum. “For this reason, my sister always visits us without her dog. She can usually go out if she’s with our mother and doesn’t want to bring the dog, that’s what my sister says, not me assuming.”
She continued, “When my fiance sees a golden retriever in public, he usually tries to stay as far away as possible and avoid it until he passes. It’s usually extremely painful and he can’t be. in the same zone as them. Not always causing a panic attack, but having it on edge and in flight or fight mode, obviously not ideal for our marriage.
“When we planned to book the dates, we talked to our immediate family in person. Talking to my family, my sister started talking about how she would buy a bow tie for her dog to wear at the wedding. This happened at our house and at her house dog was not present My fiance spoke of his discomfort and I supported him, telling him that his service dog could not come to the wedding.
The woman told her sister that she should attend the wedding without her dog, just as she does when she visits their home, and the bride-to-be was soon accused of discriminating against her sister, the 21 year old young woman telling her dog service was “essential for her functioning in life”.
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“I explained what she was like without her service dog ‘working’ well, but she immediately started crying and having a panic attack. My parents took her side and quickly left with her on the train. to cry. My brother took my side but it is only because he thinks that she does not need a service dog. I have no opinion on the validity of his dog ” , continued the woman.
“My parents called me the next day to tell me that it was not okay not to allow my sister’s service dog, and that would mean she couldn’t come. Honestly, we weren’t. not so close and she was only coming as a guest, so I suggested that she come to have dinner with me individually before or after the wedding to celebrate. Now my parents are threatening not to come and calling for laws on the wedding. handicap against me. “
She added, “I honestly think my fiancé’s comfort at our wedding is more important than my sister’s coming, and selfishly I want my fiancés to focus on me and our special day.”
The woman then turned to Reddit to question whether she was justified in not allowing her sister’s service dog to attend the wedding.
“Why does your sister’s psychological issues outweigh your fiancé’s trauma during her own marriage? According to your post, she has visited you several times without her service dog, so it doesn’t seem like overkill for her to be without her service dog for your wedding, “one Reddit user commented.
“If she absolutely feels like she can’t do without the dog for your wedding, then she just can’t attend. Also, disability laws don’t apply here, because attending marriage is not a protected right. “
Another added: “Your fiancée issues have priority since he is the one getting married. If your parents are present, she shouldn’t need the dog because she goes dogless all the time.”
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